This past Friday my boyfriend and I decided to see the opening of 300.  We made it to the theater just in time to miss the previews, but not the important story-line.  As we snuggled close, I was in awe at the picturesque scenes that brought this historical event to life.  And though the plot was blotted with "poetic license," the melodic poetry used to depict the story of 300 Spartans made the movie intense.  I would have walked out of the theater with pride had it not been for the two immature boys who blurted out during the somewhat unnecessary nudity, and for the senseless clapping when the end credits began to roll.  Yet, I still want to see the movie again when it comes out on DVD.

As we left, my boyfriend saw someone he knew who wanted a mutual friend's phone number.  Had it not been for this, I might have a more enjoyable evening.  For this led to us standing in the hallway where my boyfriend's ex would find us.  All I could think was, "Why?" and, "Try not to look upset or annoyed or clingy or give any stupid comments."  All was well until we walked to the front of the theater. 

I had to relieve myself because I had two full glasses of tea at dinner, but didn't want to miss any of the movie.  However, I also did NOT want to leave my boyfriend unattended in the presence of his ex, even with her fiance present.  I'd been in uncomfortable situations involving her before and wasn't about to let her "win" this one.  So I held back the urge to retreat to the restrooms. 

So they chatted for a few minutes, but the girl didn't plan ahead.  She began shivering from the cool night air.  "Yes," was all I could think, "She didn't contemplate the inevitable cool breezes that come when the sun goes down and all she has on is a thin t-shirt.  She'll have to end the conversation soon, and I can breathe easily again."  But no such luck.  I mean, she did say it was getting too cold for her.  But MY boyfriend decides to say something like, "Well, give me a hug goodbye cause I haven't seen you in forever."  And he gives her one.  Right there in front of me!  The only reason he gave that particular reason is because he knows the conversations we've had before about this particular ex of his.  He thinks that because they've known each other since middle school, they can be as close as best friends.

I don't understand this.  To put it simply, she has no distinction between friends and once-upon-a-time romances.  This girl has no concept of respect for the current girlfriend and the fact that he isn't hers anymore.  And he doesn't want to own up to the fact that she (despite her engagement) flirts with him as though they are the only two people there.  Not only that, but she writes him.  She writes him in the tone of a girl who wants confirmation of the possibility of making it work again.   Sometimes I wonder if she writes him because she knows that I'll see it.  If this is the case, then she's done her job.  She's gotten under my skin. 

What I can't seem to figure out is how to handle this rude annoyance.  If I talk to my boyfriend about it, he says she's just being "friendly."  But I can tell when a girl has her game face on and when she's just keeping in touch.  And the fact is, this time HE wanted to hug her...not the usual other way around. 

It's been two days since the encounter, and I still haven't figured out a logical and final way to approach this.  Should it be straight forward, like ripping off a band-aide in one swoop: or, should it be coyly put, slowly easing him into the gravity of the situation?  Whatever needs to be done, it needs to be done quickly because I'm ready to say, "Good-riddens!"



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